Advice for young people impacted by someone else’s drug or alcohol use
There are lots of reasons why someone might use drugs or alcohol, but this doesn’t mean they are not good people or that they don’t love you.
We know it can feel like your family is the only one in this situation, but you are not alone and it’s okay to speak to someone about how you’re feeling.
Over 5 million people in the UK are affected by someone else’s drinking or drug use, including lots of children and young people impacted by family substance use.
‘‘Today I found out there are other people who have similar problems and I’m not on my own”
There is lots of help and support available, and there are ways that you can cope with difficult family situations.
Talk to someone you trust. You are not alone and it’s okay to speak to someone about how you’re feeling. This could be an adult in your life who you trust, someone at school, or one of the helplines at the bottom of this page.
You don’t realise how much talking to someone helps until you actually do it
Take time for yourself. Although you can’t make someone else stop drinking or taking drugs, you’re not powerless. It’s important to take time for yourself and find ways to cope. This could be playing or listening to music, getting into a sport or hobby, or spending time with friends and other family members.
Look after your own health and wellbeing. We’ve put together some advice for taking care of your own mental and physical health. Read our wellbeing advice.
Find the support that’s right for you. Remember - there are other people with similar experiences, and there is lots of support available. We've shared some useful links at the bottom of this page.
You can read stories from people who have been in situations like yours and were helped by Change Grow Live.
Getting support from Change Grow Live
We have more than 30 services across the country that support children and young people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking or drug use.
We can support you to cope with difficult family situations and feel stronger in yourself.
We don’t judge anyone involved, and our services are confidential. We won’t share information about you with other people without your permission. However, if we think you are a risk to yourself, other people, or at risk from another person we may share this info with others. We are happy to talk to you about this before sharing.
Our services are a safe space for you to explore feelings about a situation you might not feel you have much control over.
How our services can help
Get help, support and advice
If you’re struggling with drugs or alcohol, we’re here to help.
Useful sites
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Nacoa UK
Information and support for young people affected by a parent’s drinking.
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Kooth
Safe, anonymous online chat for children and young people to discuss their mental health and wellbeing.
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Alateen
Anonymous online meetings for young people aged 12-17 who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.
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Young Minds
Mental health support for children, young people and their parents/guardians.
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Childline
Online and telephone support for children and young people to discuss issues anonymously.
